My father-in-law does not realize it, does not know what has been lost even though he has been told. There is no explaining that can lead to comprehension when the mind can no longer do its job.
We moved back to Arizona for many reasons. One of the big ones was to be closer to help my Husband’s dad. And we have – bringing him food, taking him places, sorting our the financial tangle and clutter his life has become, making and attending doctor’s appointments – most of this additional responsibility falls to Husband. I can not even start to describe how gracefully Husband has handled what is a heart wrenching situation. He is a rock in the lives of so many people and I worry about him, the weight he must feel.
It is over due and has not been safe for a long time. But he does not want to go.
Today. In a gentle ambush, two people will arrive at his house and inform him that he needs some therapy. They will take him to a house in a neighborhood, a place with staff and others. A place he can be cared for, where he will be safe.
He has seen this house before when Husband and he visited several of these places – when he was willing to go. He was excited about no longer having to making meals. He talked about some of the other residents with interest. But then he realized that he could not take everything with him. We told him we would not change a thing about his house, it would still be there. We would clean it and tend to it and he could go there with us whenever he wished. He became stubborn. No, he would not go.
Today. He will go. Or not.
And if he does not…