Of Hand Me Downs and An Abandoned Baby in a Box

Almost six years ago, the boy who shares the same school bus stop as Cody was put into a box and abandoned in a stairwell of an apartment building in Siberia.  By his own mother.  He was thirteen months old at the time.  I learned this yesterday over a cup of coffee with his adoptive mom, one of our neighbors after she offered me a couple bags of clothes her son outgrew and I offered her a cup of coffee.

She told me of her divorce and her want of a child and how Russia is one of the few countries that allow a single individual to adopt a child.  She told me of a videotape one of the two orphanages in Moscow send her of a blond haired blue eyed two year old and how she called the next day and said “I’ll take him” and of how crushed she felt when they told her that he was no longer available.  He had had a visitor.  (If a child in an orphanage gets even a short visit from any of their family members they are removed from the list for nine months to allow any possible family interest to expand into actually wanting to take the child.)

The next referral, or child, they told her about was the boy who now waits at the bus stop with Cody four days a week.  I will call him Val.  Val is in the first grade so is one year older than Cody but when he talks I can understand very little of what he is saying.  I always thought that he had some sort of a speech delay but now I know that when he came to America at the age of three and a half he had no true language.  His role models for speech were the babies at the orphanage.

We talked of many things over that cup of coffee.  Our fears, our hopes, the great big dreams we have for our children.  I told her of Cody’s cerebral palsy and his growing realization that he is different from his peers.  She talked of Val’s unwillingness to interact with his classmates and how challenging it has been to overcome the language barrier.  We talked of how heartbreaking it is to have a child who is different be treated as such.  I can’t believe I have lived down the street from this woman for the past seven years and never knew her.  I can’t believe that this little boy Val, a little babe left in a box for someone, anyone to find, ended up coming halfway around the world to live just a couple doors down from us.

What a story.  What a chance.  What a life.

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Simple Sunday – Light On. Light Off.

Kid K'nex Light Switch

Around here we don’t use any old light switch to turn our lights on and off.  And now, neither do you!  This is a super handy, aesthetically pleasing, light switch handle designed by my boys with their Kid K’NEX (although I don’t think I had to tell you that because it is so obvious, right?)  It is nice to know my kids are there for me, making my life easier one toy creation at a time.

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From the Window I Spied…

Husband standing, waiting a small blue backpack with an orange shark print motif dangled from one hand.  Barely in view, crouched down in the middle of our driveway was Carter examining what was left of our snow – tire crushed, frozen snow slush.  They walked slowly towards the house, Husband stopping every few steps and glancing back nodding at whatever Carter was saying.

The boy in the puffy blue jacket flitted from snow pile to ice chunk, from snow covered branch, to mud puddle carefully looking, studying little pieces of nature as only a three year old can do.  I smiled, hidden in the shadows behind the window.  It was such a treat to watch him from the inside looking out.  I reveled in not being the one coaxing him forward ever so slowly step by step, back to the house from the bus stop.  I was only an observer.

As they got closer and into the yard they gravitated to what was left of our snowman, a lopsided snowball the size of a beach ball, one lone branch-arm pointing accusingly to the sky as if cursing the warming trend of the last few days.  Carter plucked the branch out of the snow and started poking at it.  A chunk broke off.  Husband picked it up and tossed it.  As it came down he kicked it with his size 14 foot and it exploded in a burst of snow flurry.  I heard Carter laugh.  I imagined Carter asking his papa to do it again as Husband scooped up another snow chunk and proceeded to punt it to the sky.  After a couple more chunks were kicked they turned and headed my way.  Smiling, I ducked back into the kitchen to stir the leftover soup and take the warm bread out of the oven.  Time for lunch.

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Mmmmm, Pie…

“The pie is an English institution which, planted on American soil, forthwith ran rampant and burst forth into an untold variety of genera and species.”
~Harriet Beecher Stowe~

Yesterday, January 23rd, was National Pie Day.  Created by the American Pie Council in 1986 it began in honor of Crisco’s 75th anniversary.  I also read somewhere that the chosen date for Pie Day is because making pie is as easy as 1-2-3 but that sounds too cliché for me to believe.  I care not about the American Pie Council nor Crisco but I am a big fan of pie.

Pie Book

I don’t make enough pie.  It is not all that hard to make but it does take a bit more time than I like to spend in the kitchen and then, well, I have a pie which means that I still need to come up with something for dinner.  I suppose we could just eat pie for dinner but what type of example would that be setting for the children?

Since this year Pie Day fell on a school/work day for most people we decided to celebrate it on Sunday.  We invited several friends over and told them to bring a pie.  A few people had to cancel at the last minute but we ended up with a group of five adults and seven kids (and of equal importance, a collection of five different and tasty pies.)  I served Quiche a la Provençale and broccoli three-cheese soup and the kids make their own English muffin pizzas.  I busted out my new cookbook, aptly named Pie, and made a double batch of the Basic Flaky Pie Pastry – one crust for the quiche and one for the Sugar Pie (Tarte au Sucre) I decided to make.  I had never heard of Sugar Pie but since it had brown sugar, cinnamon, butter, maple syrup, eggs, and vanilla I figured it could not be all bad.

Pie collage

The crust, the unbaked and the baked sugar pie. It just may be my new favorite pie.

It was a smashing success.  We ate lupper, or linner if you prefer, around two and then brewed some coffee and stared down the pack of pies upon the table.  The line up was as follows:  Sugar Pie (made by yours truly), Peanut Butter Chocolate Pie (Husband’s creation), Apple Pie, Red Huckleberry Apple Pie, and a Chocolate French Silk Pie.  They were all homemade except for the last one and were all quite good.  There was also the obligatory vanilla ice cream and some cookie and cream ice cream as well although I prefer to fill up on pie, thank you very much.  Besides ice cream makes pie crust soggy, yuck! The kids played in the the back bedrooms, dumping out all the toys and making a huge mess but leaving us adults to our pie so the clean up was well worth the peace and pie.

I was planning on taking lots of great pictures to share with you but I was too busy and truthfully, was rather enjoying eating pie and chatting with my friends.  I did manage to grab a shot or two before the pies were eaten.  Oh, and Cody asked to take a picture of me making the quiche so I am putting that up here too.  If his picture is any indication, I don’t foresee a career as a  successful portrait photographer in his future.

Peck of pies

The pies in all their pie goodness glory.

Cody's pie day photo

Umm, Cody, eyes up here. No wait! Don't take the picture until you can see me in the screen of the camera. Do you see me in the screen? Ok, good then take the picture. Sigh...

And not to be outdone by all the bringers of pie, the cat who is not our cat, Delilah delivered a Pie Day gift of her.  Lucky for all the guests I happened to peek out the front door about an hour before people started showing up so we were able to dispose of it before permanently giving our friend’s children strong childhood associations of dead birds with pie.

I hope you all had a lovely Pie Day and if you happened to forget to celebrate it I suggest you bake or pick up a pie to share with someone you love tonight.

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Simple Sunday – Fun in the Snow

Snowballs, snowmen, and snow covered trees!

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You’d Think I Would Learn

There are these things, stupid things, that I just can’t seem to stop doing.  I may not do them everyday but at least once a week I will find myself doing one of them and truly wonder about my mental state.  Here is a short list of the ones that come to mind:

  1. While loading the dishwasher I continue to put several of my cute and functional magnetic measuring spoons in the same silverware holder.  They do not wash well when this happens because they are magnetic spoons.  They are designed to magnetically spoon one another and they do it well.
  2. I put hand lotion on and then thirty seconds later I find myself removing lint from the dryer’s lint screen.  Why?!?  I don’t know.  When the dryer buzzer goes off I leap into lint removal mode like Pavlov’s dogs to the ringing of a bell.  I think this stems from a deep seated fear of clothes dryers catching on fire.  My parents still have the old avocado green dryer that dried the cloth diapers from my childhood arse and it freaks me out.
  3. I occasionally spray bleach on our full length bathroom mirror instead of the intended Windex.  It makes the mirror annoyingly foggy until I get around to actually Windexing it.
  4. I am washing my hands in the kitchen and hear the dryer buzzer going.  I do a quick and not so thorough drying of my hands and run for the lint screen.  Damp hands and lint.  That damn lint screen again!
  5. It is not worth the damage to nail and knuckle to get that last minuscule piece of cheese shredded.  Seriously, it is not.  I know this and yet I continue to shred until there is either blood or a ripped off nail.

I am sure there are more incredible lame and easily avoidable things that I continue to do that make me look like I have the IQ of, say a piece of cheese, but I can’t think of them just now.

nice firefighter

Excuse me, I think I hear my dryer buzzing…

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Wait. This is Not How I Remember Snow Days.

The school district phone call woke me up at five, as my cell phone by the bed rang.  Two hour late start due to snow and no preschool.  Five minutes later the home phone, which is also forwarded to my cell phone rings, same message.  Husband is just getting out of the shower so we briefly converse about the school change.  I tell him to drive safe and he heads out to work.

I get up at six, feed the dogs, let the cat who is not our cat in from the cold, drink a cup of coffee and check my email.  The boys wake up about fifteen minutes later and immediately start in building chair and blanket forts.  I get a fire started and breakfast on the table.  We have three and a half hours until Cody’s bus comes.

I start laundry.  The boys play.  No one shows any interest in going outside which is fine with me.  It is dark and cold and the snow is more slush and ice than fun snowman snow anyway.  The boys play with hot wheels, setting up a race track with a loop and launcher.  I clean the bathroom and transfer the laundry from the washer to the dryer.

I give the boys a bath.  While they are splashing and building funnel-washcloth-drippy machines I clean their bathroom and scrub the floor.  The boys seem happy in the bath so I sort the mail and file random important papers, setting bills aside to pay later.  The boys are done and the water is chilly so I towel them off and they run shrieking through the house buck naked.  I sop up the stray bathwater and threaten the boys with underwear and clothes.  They start up a game of naked hide and seek.

I clean the kitchen table and finish packing Cody’s lunch.  The boys request a snack of pretzels.  They eat sitting side by side at the table still naked, their wet heads bowed close together while they discuss the various shapes and letters they can make by eating certain parts of a pretzel.  They praise each others ideas and I smile.

I finally get them dressed.  They bust out their wooden train track and start madly building a series of tracks after I tell them we are out the door in ten.  Sock and shoes.  Jackets and a backpack.  Into the car we pile because, even though it has not snowed a flake all morning, it suddenly decides to dump and the bus stop is a ten minute walk at best.  I feel like a horrible mother because I forget Cody’s mittens.

Carter and I get back home.  We bring in the empty trash can, wrestle the garden/wood cart from the backyard up the hill and around the garage to the woodpile to restock our mini woodpile by the front door.  Leather work gloves suck in the snow.

We shiver out of our wet jackets and line our boots up by the fire.  I crank up one of my Pandora radio station (think Los Fabulosos Cadillac’s, Manu Chao, and Buena Vista Social Club) and we make some homemade bran muffins.  I wonder how we are going to fill the rest of the day.

That all happened yesterday before lunch.  This morning there is already about 5 inches on the ground and it is still falling.  The school called last night to report that there would be no school.  I do not feel that magic snow day excitement that I used to as a child, in fact I am  missing my morning alone time.  Perhaps I need to grab some of that snow day excitement from my boys and (0nce the sun comes up) go out into the snow and make snow angels and snowmen with abandon.  Then we can all come in, strip off our wet clothes to dry by the fire, and have a naked pretzel and hot cocoa snack.

I think I will opt for clothes just in case the UPS man shows up.

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The Skeletons in Our Closet

The alarm goes off.  Sometimes it wakes me up, sometimes it doesn’t.  Husband rolls out of bed turns it off and lumbers into the bathroom.  The door shuts, the light seeps out from under, and the shower starts up.  If I wake up to the alarm I am sometimes able to fall back to sleep while Husband sleep showers.  The bathroom door opens and then closes half way, shining light on his empty side of the bed.  I roll over or cover my head.  He braves the landmine of dogs, dog beds, and stray toys on his way to the closet.

The closet door opens and there is an unfamiliar rattling.  My sleep saturated mind tries to determine the source of the sound.  Were the boys playing in our closet again and left their jingle bell necklaces in one of Husband’s shoes?  Do belts make that noise if they get brushed by a shirt or a fumbling hand?  Ah, maybe it is the sound of the skeletons in our closet trying to get out.  Or the skeletons of the neighbors we stuffed in there.  You know the neighbors; the ones who lets their dogs poo all over our forest where the boys play even after I asked them nicely not to, the one who drives his red jeep way too fast down our dead end street, the crazy neighbor guy who…I drift back to sleep.

“Mama?!  It wake up time yet?”  And so my day begins in earnest this time.  We are well into breakfast when I remember the rattling and I smile a knowing smile.  Beer bottles, exactly fifty, resting in our closet.  Husband is trying his hand at home brewing and he and the boys bottled the brew last night, transferring it from the carboy to the bottles.

carboy to bucket

Transferring the beer from the carboy to the bucket (please disregard the general background clutter.)

bucket to bottle

While Cody and Kissy Shrimp look on the beer is transferred into bottles.

banished boys

After being told one too many times to stop running through the kitchen during the bottling process, the boys pull up chairs where living room meets kitchen and ask for popcorn. They did not get popcorn.

So instead of a huge vat of beer fermenting in my closet, there are fifty beer bottles carbonating in there instead.  For the next two weeks.  Or more.  At least it is on his side.

No actual neighbors were harmed in the making of this post.

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Simple Sunday – First Snowfall of the Season

Carter snow angel

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Heads Up 7-Up!

I have been awarded the 7 x 7 Link Award by two very kind and talented bloggers, Mom in the Muddle and Mommy said a swear word!!  Thank you both very much.  If you have not had a chance to check them out, I highly recommend it.

7x7-blog-award

For this award I am suppose to tell you seven things about myself that you don’t already know, link seven of my own posts to the categories listed below, and pass the award on to seven fellow bloggers.  Since I already created a lovely list of personal things about myself when I wrote this post and because I am feeling lazy (and should actually be doing something more productive right now like laundry, vacuuming, or  grocery shopping) I will skip that part and see if anyone notices.  Shhhh, don’t tell.  So that brings us to the links and corresponding categories.  This was tough for me because I sort of consider each of my posts to be like mini children (who thankfully don’t poop, cry or eat) and I did not want to leave any out, thereby hurting their feelings.  This is what I came up with.

  1. Most Surprisingly Successful:  Simple Sunday – Perspectives.  I originally started the Simple Sunday idea so I could post something that was more visual then textual and did not take a lot of time to create.  The first part of that statement has held true. Each Sunday I post a photo.  It has not always been the case that the Sunday post is easy or quick but I find them fun and they entertain me.  I just didn’t think anyone else would really care about them.
  2. Most Underrated:  At Least There Will Be No Copay and the follow up to it, Post Surgery Report – The Shrimp Lives to See Another Day.  Seriously, I could write a book about Cody’s stuffed shrimp.  I don’t know why I find it so humorous but I do.
  3. Most Popular:  My WordPress Therapy – Session One.  I wrote this with tears streaming down my face and almost didn’t publish it because I thought it was too serious of a topic.
  4. Most Beautiful:  The Little Things Are Sometimes Not so Little.  A story of a little boy who looses his blue balloon.  The little boy is Carter.
  5. Most Helpful:  Kindergarten Angst.  This helped me with my fears of sending Cody off on his first day of school.  I think it also helps my readers understand a bit more about our lives and the daily fears we face raising a child with a history of seizures.
  6. Most Controversial:  Ode to Alone.  I really have not written a post that I would consider controversial.  I chose this one because telling people that you are happy to get away from your children for a while is not always looked positively upon.  I really enjoy my mornings alone!
  7. Most Pride Worthy:  This category was the hardest for me.  I picked two that are on the opposite ends of the spectra.  My WordPress Therapy – Session One and  DVD Malice with Good Intent.  The first one I am proud of because it is such a raw piece and it was beyond scary to put it out there.  The second one I like because I try to write about things other then my children from time to time.  Plus I had this image of the small notebook paper with the push pin for a list and I was actually able to create it exactly as I saw it in my head.  Check it out –it will make me smile if you do.

Now for the seven blogger I wish to share this award with:

Fab Fam Five

The Monster in Your Closet

mamaplus

The Book of Alice

Twisted Domestic Goddess

Piles of Laundry in the Holy Land

jodistone

They are all amazing writers with a unique style that keep me coming back for more.  I think you will like them too.

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